Saturday, October 15, 2011

01. Evolving Daddy


For men SEX is always FUN, right? Wrong. The time you take the decision to take your relationship one step ahead, sex is not about having fun, it is about having…BABIES. There will be changes in your life- good and bad. No more do you need to remember the special dates, like the first time you had strawberry ice-cream together, to have good sex. Instead now you have to remember the right day in her monthly cycle. No more will your sex performance be rated by your ability to make her have orgasm, but by your ability to get those blue lines on the pregnancy test. 


And once you are successful in your objective, it will be all about the mother. You, the poor daddy, will hardly be noticed the next nine months by people other than your now unpredictable wife, whose mood swings will keep confusing you. Your inability to do anything but helplessly watch the pain of the one you love, during the labor, will make you feel miserable. And then when all that is over, will come the time of sleepless nights and nappy changes. Welcome to the world of fatherhood, and believe me, life can’t get better.

'Evolving Daddy' is about the evolution of a father, it is about the things I learn from my kid. It is about those nine months and beyond. I am not a doctor, so do not expect any technical advice. It is about what I am learning from our experience through parenthood.

We have been through those nine months and it has been the best nine months in our life so far. It has not only been only about her, but about us. We have been together through these nine months and will be together through the rest of our life. Fathers do have active role to play even while mamma is pregnant. Do not shy away, because these moments won’t come back. There is more to men then just sex and booze.

51 comments:

  1. Mubarak ho Bhai saheb....:)

    Being father is really a gr8 feeling...:))

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  2. haha..m sure to expect a new kind of khoj here :)
    congrarts again and all the best!

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  3. Sub!! You are the best....am proud you started this blog...evolve and many congratulations...

    and well, i can relate when you said, women steal the thunder :) i have seen how women stole the thunder and men kept wondering, wait, i did that to her :D

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  4. Congrats Subhashis... All the best for your journey!! :)

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  5. wow...this sounds like a whole lot of fun place to be...move over mommies-the daddies also have something to say..and wow again at all that you said-wish more men thought like this!

    congratulations and stay blessed:-)

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  6. wonderful SUB. m glad you started this. i wondered once where you were going to put in your experiences as a father in Khoj. happy for "evolving daddy"
    good luck & post as often as you can.
    its your journey but our flashback :)

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  7. oops pls remove the word verification. m sure it slipped your notice

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  8. I can't feel happy enough for you and your family.
    It's great you started this blog.It's such a sweet and wonderful place.
    Would love to come here again and again.
    And please don't mind if this blog gets all my love and attention instead of Khoj.....


    Stay blessed.

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  9. WOW Sub..awesome start and I'm gonna watch out for more frm here :-)

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  10. Welcome to the club son. The most amazing period of your life is about to begin...till the child is about 4 years old. But I can already see you being wrapped around little fingers....twenty nine years later, I still have to unwrap myself:) As I said, welcome to the club....great start to the developing story.

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  11. Look forward to reading more. It is an experience. My husband's life really changed after our kiddo's were born! He went from doing whatever he wanted to watching 4 young boys {our 2 and my sister's 2}. BUSY in a good way. Most days that is. ;)

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  12. It takes a lot of responsibility to become a loving hubby and a caring daddy. So, as u said, every man should not shy away from his responsibilities. Nice post and I liked it very much. I believe. every 'would be dad' will like this post.

    From: sriramnivas.wordpress.com

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  13. @Irfan: Sukriya :)....it is an amazing feeling...something i can't describe :)

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  14. @A grain of sand: it is a different khoj...a different learning...or probably part of the same journey :)
    thanks again :D

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  15. @Bluntblogger: soo sweet of you...thanks a lot :)

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  16. @Suruchi: glad u liked it...thanks a lot :)

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  17. @Sujatha: here it is...thanks Sujatha :)
    wish you enjoy the flashback :)

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  18. @Jojofeelings: don't worry...i might love this one more too :)...keep coming back...and thanks a lot :)

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  19. @Droopy Rose: glad u liked it...keep coming back :)
    thanks a lot :D

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  20. Satish Mutatkar: it already feel wonderful...and i know it is going to get better :)....thanks a lot

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  21. @alissa4illustration: she has already changed my life for good...thanks soo much :)

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  22. @sriramnivas: thanks soo much...glad u liked it :)

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  23. lol..i liked this. :) this is what happens in most of couple's..incase if its not accidental..!
    congrates .

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  24. @Chirta: True :)...thanks a lot!

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  25. Looks like we will also learn a lot from ridhima via U :)

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  26. It only adds to my respect for you...really :)
    Keep rising mate :) Best wishes :)

    Whats the name of little SUB?

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  27. @Rohan: Cheers!
    her name in Hridhima :)

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  28. Hey!! Many congratulations evolving daddy!!

    Such an innovative idea to start this blog.It will be interesting to know parenthood from the eyes of a husband and father!!

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  29. Congratulations to all tree of you :) dad, mom and the kid (boy?) :)

    Good of a man to write stuff like this :) I think every man need this info :)

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  30. Congrats Sub and best wishes to Hridhima.
    Btw, I just noticed. Had to ask. What's the extra 'n' doing in the url of KHOJ?

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  31. @Kirklops: thanks...i misspelled it :)

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  32. Sub! first, Congrats. Second, I think it's a lovely thought to record all the difference a child can make in your life, to record all the changes and "evolution" you'll be going through. Good luck with parenting. :)

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  33. @Apeetha Ravi: thanka a lot :)

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  34. hmmm so true! well written SUB!

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  35. You are indeed blessed....enjoy the journey. All the best new Daddy.

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  36. @Alka Gurha: Thanks soo much Alka :D

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  37. congratulations again....:) :) :) :) :)

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  38. Evolving Daddy..congratulations & all the best..your emotions flow through so well hope your wife reads what you write..she should! :)

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  39. @Maitreyee Bhattacharjee Chowdhury: Thanks soo much...i guess she will find out this blog someday :)

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  40. Hey congratulations !
    Your excitement is clearly seen in your writing.
    Facing the swinging mood of a woman is a big deal.
    hope you have wonderful experiences ahead.
    All the best "evolving daddy" ;)

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  41. Very very beautiful and very touchy.

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  42. @Reicha Ahluwalia: thanks soo much :)

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