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After nine months baby is finally here. The battle is won, but the war has just begun.

When we first saw her during USG she looked so cute and we wondered when we are going to hold her. Now she is here, and she looks prettier, but she looks fragile too. 

Unlike our new washing machine, here was no ‘handle with care’ or ‘this side up’ sign attached to her! She did not come with any instruction manual.

I was afraid to hold her the first time. But I soon got better of my fear and there she was, in my arms. My first lesson – babies don’t break easily.

To start with, there was a big communication gap. While she looked like a human, she spoke like an alien. The language in which this cute little alien spoke is called: Crying.

Hungry-cry…potty-cry…piss-cry, pissed off-cry. If not an instruction manual, what about a Crying to English dictionary?

But soon we started to understand that language. We could differentiate between the cry that meant she is hungry, the cry that meant change my nappy, the cry that meant I have a stomach ache, or the room is either too hot or freezing cold, and the one that simple meant hold me. I liked the fact that this language had no grammar, I hate grammars. Lesson 2 – crying is babies first language. Know it and the baby is going to speak to you.

But no father even evolved to understand the Crying-language better than mothers, thanks to the port pregnancy brain growth (pruning).

Parentese Language and Child-Directed Speech are essential components in a mother's interaction with her child, that helps the baby learn human language. These specialized forms of speech are designed to make communication easier for the baby.

Parentese Language is characterized by a higher pitch, exaggerated intonation, and slower speech rate. These features make it easier for babies to hear and understand the spoken words.

Child-Directed Speech on the other hand involves simplified vocabulary, shorter sentences, and repetition. It helps the baby grasp the meaning of words and phrases.

During the first three months, a baby is primarily focused on understanding sounds. They are developing their auditory skills and learning to distinguish different sounds in their environment. In the subsequent three months, they begin to grasp a few commands and experiment with babbling sounds. This marks the initial stages of language development.

By the age of one, a baby may have acquired a small vocabulary and be able to speak a few words. The mother's use of parentese and child-directed speech plays a crucial role in this early language acquisition process. But that was still far away.

We were concerned parents in the beginning. We worried about everything that we could possibly worry about. Is the room temperature right? Is the baby feeding well? What will happen to her in Diwali with all that noise? Why is her tongue always out? Why is she having hiccups for so long? Is she burping properly? How to hold her extra flexible soft neck? Is she having enough sleep? Why is she spitting so much? Most of the time, like for men, a pair of caring arms, or a pair of breasts calms a baby down. 

Only once was she very cranky and cried a lot. We called the doctor and he recommended some colic drops. 6 drops and she was fine. 

With time we also calmed down as parents and started enjoying this new phase. We realized spitting isn’t a health problem; it is more of a laundry problem. We realized that as long as she is passing urine more than 7 times a day she is feeding well.

Doctor provided us with child development graphs and she was growing perfectly. Lesson 3 - There is nothing to worry, let things flow naturally.

One good thing about Hridhima is that she doesn’t cry much. She is the happiest baby in town…and she smiles a lot. I am sure it is not gas all the time, most of the time it is because she feels comfortable. And the best part, she loves to sleep through the night. She needs a feed only once in the middle of the night, rest of the time she lets us sleep. Who said babies gives sleepless nights? She is such a sweetheart.