Monday, October 17, 2011

03. The Breaking News!

February 2011, she told me that she has missed her periods, and she felt as if something was different. We went to our doctor on 16th. She broke the news and congratulated us. We can’t tell how happy we were. Our life has already changed.

One day, when you are least expecting, you wife is going to break the news you two have been waiting for so long. The blue lines are going to change your life forever.

Your wife has been cautious every moment looking for signs; she has been looking forward to missing her periods. Every single sign had made her happy, and every period had made her sad. Now, when her pregnancy test is positive, she is bound to be over the moon. It is a feeling we men will never understand, but we can at least appreciate it. We are happy and we express our feelings in our own way.

We (men) have been comfortable in our life so far; now that our life is going to change, we are supposed to be a bit nervous. Thoughts like - if your baby is going to be healthy, if you are going to be a good dad, will you have enough money, is your wife going to change, what about all the parties and night outs, and what about sex - might make you crazy. Don’t worry, you are not being abnormal, you are just being a man.

Worrying about your baby’s health, being concern about being a good father, only means that you love your baby.

Yes, your wife is going to become crazy and fat, but don’t worry you will get her, and your sex, back. Your testosterones might be on the lower side. But that’s OK. We are serial monogamist and lower T tames us to become better father.

Remember the hormones are playing haywire with moms’ emotions. It is she who is carrying the baby for 9months, and all the pains associated with it. At the end it is she who has to push that big thing out of a small hole. You are lucky¯ that you are not pregnant, respect that. You will slowly settle down and realize that your life is going to change for good…ours did.

The next nine months were amazing, we heard her heartbeat for the first time, we felt her move for the first time, and we saw her face during USG for the first time. We felt like we were in love with each other all over again.

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62 comments:

  1. UpasanaOctober 17, 2011 at 10:52 AM

    How cute!! Its nice to know a man's perspective.

    http://myblawghh.blogspot.com

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  2. Sahana RaoOctober 17, 2011 at 11:42 AM

    Wow! That is a feeling apart!

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  3. AakritiOctober 17, 2011 at 12:47 PM

    Heya Sub!! Somehow having seen ur style of writing at Khoj...I knew some writeups were already on the way as far as u becoming a dad was concerned...(and here I see a whole blog dedicated:)coz I knw that u have that sensitive mature side in u..that is very alive:) Beautiful post!! and I really appreciate ur honesty!:)
    Aakriti

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  4. BikramOctober 17, 2011 at 4:49 PM

    I can understand .. My cousin just had a baby boy on 13th october and I can feel the ecitement myself ..
    Congrats :)
    Bikram's

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  5. TanviOctober 17, 2011 at 5:11 PM

    That was like straight from the heart :) :) Very nicely expressed each and every step :) :) I don't have much idea, maybe due to the age difference, but yes watching the motion of a baby inside the womb is the best feeling ever :)

    And your princess is really cute:)

    Cheers,

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  6. Neeraj KumarOctober 17, 2011 at 5:47 PM

    A nice post with full of emotions. Just loved it.

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  7. Rohan ShedageOctober 17, 2011 at 6:03 PM

    Agree-women deserve consideration for hardships they go through...

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  8. AnonymousOctober 17, 2011 at 6:37 PM

    How everything must look from an man's eyes.. Things are changing, but you dont feel it all on your own body, afte a time you see your woman change.. Tell us more, and yes, maybe people will love this blog even more because of you. Give a big hug to your wife :)

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  9. the other side of meOctober 17, 2011 at 6:42 PM

    Awww..This is really nice and honest post,I too have a friend who's trying hard for a baby,She'll be very down whenever the cycle returns and I used to tell her,God will give you something when He thinks that you're ready for it,sometimes its better to wait to prepare for the changes that'll arrive

    I'm very sure you guys will be a good parent
    Send my kisses to ur little angel,hope she lights up ur life...

    Again,lovely post..made me smile all the way :D

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  10. JanhviOctober 17, 2011 at 6:47 PM

    That was bang straight from the heart..........
    loved the fact that you are mature enough to understand the woman's side of the pregnancy.... :)
    Wish all men were like you!

    jojofeelings.wordpress.com

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  11. An Apel a DayOctober 17, 2011 at 7:18 PM

    When I found out I was pregnant with Mica, I knew I was pregnant already. My body just said so. I missed a period, my breasts were sore, I kept getting dizzy like I was going to faint.

    One time I over did a walk, came home, went to take a shower and everything went black. I woke up scared to death and shaking! All was ok though.

    For some reason with Mica I felt faint all the time!

    He was a breech baby, I was low on fluid and he was long. They tried to turn him from the outside, but he was stubborn. My thoughts of having a normal, vaginal birth changed. C-section he was. The C-section hurt less then them trying to turn him.

    Then with Isaak all was different. I missed a period, my breasts hurt, I thought I was pregnant, I took a test and it came back negative. :(

    It wasn't until a month later that I took a test and it was positive. I would have thought it was a miss-carriage. Really could someone have a miss-carriage and get pregnant so fast? No way. It was very odd!

    I was never dizzy with Isaak. :)

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  12. SuruchiOctober 17, 2011 at 7:29 PM

    that is such an empathy filled post-as though you've peeped into the heart n mind of a woman and understood what she wants from the father of her baby:-)

    god bless you all!:-)

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  13. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 7:47 PM

    @Upasana: thanks a lot :)

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  14. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 7:48 PM

    @Sahana Rao: oh! it is :)

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  15. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 7:54 PM

    @Aakriti: really? after all you are a psychology student!...thanks sooo much :)

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  16. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 7:55 PM

    @Bikramjit: sure you do...thanks a lot :)

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  17. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 7:56 PM

    @Tanvi: Oh! it feels great...esp the first time...:) thanks sooo much :)

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  18. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 7:56 PM

    @Neeraj Kumar: thanks a lot :)

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  19. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 7:57 PM

    @Rohan: ...and love :)
    thanks a lot

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  20. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 7:58 PM

    @Ege: just gave her a hug :)....thanks soo much

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  21. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 8:00 PM

    @the other side of me: they have nothing to be worried about....good times are ahead of them :)
    that's soo sweet of you ... thanks a lot :)

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  22. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 8:01 PM

    @Janhvi: thanks a lot Janhvi :)...there are definitely a lot of men like that :)...

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  23. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 8:05 PM

    @alissa4illustration: thanks a lot for sharing...
    those false negatives can be scary...
    i know someone who had a false positive...they were really sad when they came to know the truth :)

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  24. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 8:07 PM

    @Suruchi: thanks a lot :)

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  25. AbhisekOctober 17, 2011 at 10:05 PM

    A new life starts full of exciting moments...Congrats bro :)

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  26. AnonymousOctober 17, 2011 at 10:12 PM

    awww!! I love the blogger pic Sub and look forward to reading more on this blog...to be frank, i like this blog more than khoj :) this gives an insight to a journey that is so meaningful and personal....

    there is a pride in each word you post here ;)

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  27. wandererOctober 17, 2011 at 10:23 PM

    I have this in a book after some 20 years :D

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  28. Saru SinghalOctober 17, 2011 at 10:58 PM

    :) :) :) Smiles all the way Subhrasis:)

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  29. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 11:03 PM

    @Abhisek: thanks a lot :)

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  30. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 11:04 PM

    @TheBluntBlogger: Khoj is jealous now :)
    thanks soo much :D
    i'm a proud person ;)

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  31. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 11:05 PM

    @wanderer: I wish :D

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  32. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 17, 2011 at 11:05 PM

    @ Saru Singhal: Keep Smiling :)

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  33. Confused SoulOctober 18, 2011 at 12:20 AM

    Congratulations :D .. and your baby is a darling.. *touchwood* :)

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  34. ZebaOctober 18, 2011 at 1:08 AM

    This is such a lovely post. Made me feel good to read it. I am really happy for the two of you. Congrats!!

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  35. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 18, 2011 at 9:14 AM

    @confused soul: Lil Hridhima says thanks :)

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  36. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 18, 2011 at 9:15 AM

    @Zeba: Thanks soo much :)

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  37. AADOctober 18, 2011 at 11:08 AM

    Hey Sub, saw the link you posted to this blog on my post comment, and had to come check it out, and I'm glad I did, just loved this post, daughters are daddies darlings, you will love this journey of being a father, it will show you aspects of yourself you never knew existed... :-)

    Just one bone to pick...I don't think men are lucky that they aren't pregnant, for me it's women who are the lucky ones, who get to experience that unique bond with their child, that no man ever can, trust me, if anyone's unlucky here, it's the man... ;-)

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  38. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 18, 2011 at 12:25 PM

    @AAD: Oh! I am already loving it...thanks a lot...

    can't argue on that...that sentence wasn't meant for girls ;)...every coin has two sides...every pain has its complimentary joy...i was only talking about the pain part :)

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  39. shvetilakOctober 18, 2011 at 4:45 PM

    Feeling good, very good...a very nice post! n btw a cute profile pic of urs i mean ur family pic...congrats :)

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  40. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 18, 2011 at 5:38 PM

    @shveta: so sweet of you :)

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  41. HopeOctober 19, 2011 at 12:19 PM

    Like this blog more than Khoj....sorry but this is the truth. The way you've brought out a man's emotions and feelings while a woman is pregnant, it's amazing. Beautiful and....ummmm, unique. Keep posting. I can connect to soo many things here :)

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  42. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 19, 2011 at 12:50 PM

    @Hope: Khoj is gonna be jealous...:)
    thanks soo much :)

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  43. Bharathi Raja ROctober 19, 2011 at 9:39 PM

    //It is a feeling we men will never understand, but we can at least appreciate it. We are happy and we express our feelings in our own way. //

    I have gone through this feeling - exactly the same... I also couldn't understand, I also appreciated and I also expressed my feelings in my own way. But, I am sure I wouldn't have appreciated or expressed (even in my own way) at times. Let me apologize to her for that tonight. :(

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  44. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 19, 2011 at 10:06 PM

    @BHARATHIRAJA: Oh it happens....doesn't it feel great after apologizing :)...it only shows your love and maturity :)
    thanks a lot :)

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  45. AnandOctober 19, 2011 at 11:09 PM

    Great SUB... The experience of men's emotions in a great turning point of life is such a nice depiction... Thanks for sharing this...

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  46. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 19, 2011 at 11:15 PM

    @Anand: u r welcome Anand :)

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  47. TuktukiOctober 20, 2011 at 11:16 PM

    indeed, the feeling is awesome..... :) :) :) :)
    thank you subhrasis da, i could feel ur excitement as i read it.... :) :) :) :)

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  48. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 21, 2011 at 9:55 AM

    @Tuktuki: Your excitement makes me happy :)

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  49. AakritiOctober 21, 2011 at 11:05 PM

    Sub...I dunt think Psychology has to do anything with it...lets just call it "basic instinct';) haha:D

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  50. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 21, 2011 at 11:25 PM

    @Aakriti: LOL :)

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  51. Sujatha SathyaOctober 23, 2011 at 9:02 PM

    i have read every post here & loved it
    straight from the heart

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  52. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 23, 2011 at 9:36 PM

    @Sujatha Sathya: Glad u liked it :)

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  53. LinhyOctober 25, 2011 at 7:05 AM

    Omg! I've been not blogging and checking out other people blogs for a while! congrats!!!!!! checkout my blog when u get a chance I posted 3 new one for oct.

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  54. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 25, 2011 at 10:45 AM

    @Linhy: thanks soo much....will check :)

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  55. MeeraOctober 25, 2011 at 5:08 PM

    Congratulations!! Yes the feeling around the first pregnancy is almost like magic!! Every woman I thought remembered it - it is touching to know that men do too!! The feeling of uncertainty, hope, dreams fears all together .. I dont know if it is beautiful or worrying. There is a beautiful song from the film "Anand Ashram" with Uttam Kumar and Sharmila which I think best portrays some of these feelings. All the best - remember this is the nice part... once the baby is here you will be enslaved LOL!

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  56. Subhrashis AdhikariOctober 25, 2011 at 7:00 PM

    @Meera: Oh yea!...thanks soo much :)...
    it worrying at that time...now it is beautiful :)...

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  57. PriyAlokMarch 24, 2012 at 3:43 PM

    Oh ww, its really lovely, heart touching, amazing, even i have no words to express my feelings, i am just 22 and unmarried and feeling like so, I am sue that when i will be mom i surely reply you with another feelings and words,

    Amazing...
    Its really good for a man if he is thinking like this, apart of work pressure and all...
    Wow,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

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  58. PriyAlokMarch 24, 2012 at 3:47 PM

    Oh ww, its really lovely, heart touching, amazing, even i have no words to express my feelings, i am just 22 and unmarried and feeling like so, I am sue that when i will be mom i surely reply you with another feelings and words,

    Amazing...
    Its really good for a man if he is thinking like this, apart of work pressure and all...
    Wow,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

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  59. HemaFebruary 7, 2013 at 9:00 PM

    looooooved it :-)

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