Sunday, October 23, 2011

09. As D-Day Approaches


They say ‘mard ko dard nahi hota’ (men does not feel pain) with pride. But they forget, aurat ko dard hota hai tab hi jaa ke maard payda hota hai! It’s through the pain of a woman that men are born. Pain is not something to be ashamed of.

Research says that women forget the pain of labor, had they remembered they would have never wanted to be pregnant again. The researchers have underestimated mothers. If that was true they would have fainted during labor itself. In fact, I have heard many men fainting just watching their wives. Truth is, men not only feel the pain, but are afraid as well, especially so, in the last few months. It is normal for both of you to worry about the final delivery. This too shall pass!

One thing that made us really worried was baby’s movement. 22weeks passed and we could not feel her move. Then on the 23th week she told me that she felt something in her stomach. Is it gas, or is she moving? I still could not feel her, but she did. Few weeks later I felt her for the first time. Those jerks and kicks grew stronger as weeks passed, and then we could actually see her move! She was probably dancing to the beat ‘I like to move it move it!’ We talked to her, sang her songs. Isn’t it amazing that she could actually hear us?

The last few months can be tiring. The baby grows rapidly creating stretch marks in mommy’s tummy. Don’t be afraid when you look at your wife’s tummy, be happy for the fact that your baby is growing well. Some of her pregnancy symptoms return in the last trimester. She might be having back aches as well. This is your excuse to touch your wife, give her a gently message. Easy way to add some points to your kitty. Remember, happy wife means happy life!

Technology has advanced a lot. We went for the third trimester Doppler USG. That’s when we saw her face for the first time. Now it was the long wait for the day we were actually going to hold her.



32 comments:

  1. omg...this is so cool :) you could see her :)

    i love this blog of yours...

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  2. Sub gives pregnancy gyan! Interesting :)

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  3. haha..your first para had me :)
    *pain is not something to be ashamed of*->perfect

    And i agree women deserve respect for the degree of tolerance they show..coz tolerance is strong person's trait.

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  4. OMGGG how lovely! Sub this write up just made me cry! I love the emotions in your writing, especially when you said you sang to her! Hehe the BEST part was dancing on "I like to move it!" lol! Hridhima is going to love partying and living life to the fullest! Did I already tell you the Best part? Okay then the BESTEST part was the UCG!! She looks SO beautiful! I LOVE this blog and see myself spending lots of time here :D

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  5. @TheBluntBlogger: Oh yea!... it was amazing :)...thanks Chintan :)

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  6. @Purba: LOL...sharing my learning's i would say :p

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  7. @Rohan: So true...thanks a lot :D

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  8. @Beeni: Hi again! Plz don't cry :)...smile as u read :D :D
    USG was amazing....thanks soo much...keep coming back :)

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  9. Oh! Subu you are a participant in a magical experience! Am so happy that you choose to experience it fully rather than being a passive onlooker like most men !

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  10. It's great to read so many emotions of a father.....
    Love this blog!

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  11. "happy wife means happy life!" You are surely set for one happy life! :)

    Wow! you have the photo so clear. I'll have to search my USG too! :) :)

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  12. And nothing can beat the feeling of seeing your baby's moves and singing songs for her :P So adorable!

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  13. @Hope: it has been a wonderful 7yrs soo far...and gonna b for the nxt 7 lives i guess :)
    thanks

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  14. @Droopy Rose: oh yesss :D....thanks Gargi :D

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  15. I like those Hindi lines in the beginning.
    I was wondering what will be your daughter's reaction when she'll grew up and visit your blog "evolving daddy". *surprise* :D
    Simply blissful moments...
    Thanks for sharing such life experiences with us :)

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  16. It must be such s sweet experience. Enjoy every moment of it. The anticipation n all. All the best for the D day. Wishing your wife a safe delivery.

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  17. @Reicha Ahluwalia: hope it will b a pleasant one :)

    thanks soo much :D

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  18. @Sh@s: Thanks so much for dropping by...our daughter is already born on 5th OCT...:D

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  19. Hi hi...Hearty congratulations. Since, your post was dated 23rd Oct. so I thought that its still due. You got your Diwali gift in advance :) Your daughter will always thank you for that pic.
    Wish you a Happy Diwali and lost of cheer!

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  20. @Sh@s: Don't blame u...most ppl who reads this blog actually know me already through my other blog KHOJ...so they know the news :)
    thanks and Happy Diwali to you too :)hav fun!

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  21. That's fun when you can see and feel them move!!

    Such a cool 3D picture!

    I never got a 3D ultrasound. I did get plenty of chances to watch and feel them move. Both of my babies were pretty sleepy ones. I had to do a stress test with Mica because I was low on fluid. He wouldn't move! The doctor came in and made this loud noise on my belly. Mica jumped!!! He had us both laughing!

    Then in grad school we had a pregnant model. It was so cool watching the baby move inside her when she was trying to hold still. It was great to have a chance to draw her!

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  22. omg! that photo from Dopper USG - amazing. i didnt have one of those :(

    hahhaha - "aurat ko dard hota hai tabhi mard paida hota hai" ---hahahha

    Sub, check for the spelling of "gentle massage"

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  23. @alissa4illustration: Hridhima was very active...she used to dance inside :)

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  24. @Sujatha Sathya: Oh sad :(
    upps...will correct :)...thanks

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  25. OMG thank you for sharing that!!! :) It must have been an awesome moment na:)

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  26. @PeeVee™: Oh it was...AWESOME!!!!!!!!! thanks

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  27. They say ‘mard ko dard nahi hota’ (men does not feel pain) with pride. But they forget, aurat ko dard hota hai tab hi jaa ke maard payda hota hai!
    what a thoughtfull observation. Tremedous read!

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  28. @Neeraj Kumar: Thanks a lot :)

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